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Having a Blast at Brittingham’s

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There were three–count them–three lovely Irish pageant winners at the fourth annual Brittingham’s Irish Fest in Lafayette Hill on Sunday, September 2. There were also hundreds of happy folks who braved a spritzing of rain to attend the parking lot-sized festival that kicks off festival month in the region.

There was music–Jamison, the Paul Moore Band, and No Irish Need Apply (which features 2012 International Mary from Dungloe, Meghan Davis)–as well as vendors and some kick-butt barbecue. And dancing? There’s always dancing at this event, by those who know what they’re doing and those who don’t. It’s always a happy time.

If you don’t believe us or that adorable baby to the right, check out our pictures.

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A Special Tea to Raise Money for Breast Cancer

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Tea party essentials!

It was a tea party. If you didn’t know it by the pretty pots and cups and the table groaning with sweets, you could tell by the hats.

Especially Sylvia Tolan’s hat, a floppy, sparkly J. Lo hat from Kohls, decorated with. . .a hot pink bra. “I made it myself this morning,” said the Havertown woman with a grin. “I needed something girly.”

Clearly, this was no ordinary tea party. And, in fact, it wasn’t. It was a fundraiser for Carmel’s Crew, a group of women, friends of Carmel Bradley of Havertown, who was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2009. The group of 20 women each must raise $2,300 to participate in the 3-Day Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure in October.

Aisling Travers, a 19-year-old education student at West Chester State University, who has been part of the group since it began, planned the tea party—right down to delicate china cups and the “Keep Calm and Fight On” posters. It was held on Sunday, August 19, at the Malvern home of her parents, Seamus and Marie Travers.

Why a tea party? Travers is blunt: “I hate asking people for money. Plus, fundraisers are usually beef-and-beers and bar-oriented, and being the youngest on the team, I thought it would be cute for the kids to be involved. I wanted it to be a Mom-and-Me event, and there’s nothing more girly than a tea party.”

She signed on for the 3-Day because “it was on my bucket list and I’ve known Carmel and most of the girls since I was little,” says Travers. It was all she hoped for and more. “It was awesome,” she says. “I was nervous the first time, first because we’re walking 60 miles and I was hoping I’d survive, but also because I didn’t know everyone that well. But by the end of the three days, we all became unbelievably close.”

All of Carmel’s Crew are friends of Bradley, a 47-year-old mother of three and Donegal native. In May 2009, after a routine mammogram, she learned she had an aggressive form of breast cancer.

“I know all the controversy about mammograms,” says Bradley, referring to a 2009 recommendation from a government task force that women in their 40s not get screened. “But a mammogram found my cancer. It wasn’t even a lump. It was a thickening of the skin. All I keep thinking is that if I didn’t get a mammogram, if I’d waited three years, I wouldn’t be here.”

Bradley went through both chemotherapy and radiation after a lumpectomy. While she was in treatment, she and the two of her seven sisters who live in the US began talking about the Komen 3-Day. “We talked each other into it,” laughs Bradley, who is completing her degree in special education at West Chester State University.

Initially, she and her sisters—Una McDaid and Fionnuala McBrearty—thought they’d do it themselves. “Then a few friends said they’d liked to and it just grew—to 20,” Bradley says.

The experience was fun, exhausting, but also healing. “I had just finished up treatment three or four months before, but I got so much energy from the group,” she says. “We would just stick together and carry each other along.”

She’s not normally very emotional, Bradley admits, but it got to her. “The survivors wear different colored t-shirts and when I saw the number that were there, I got emotional.”

In fact, everyone in Carmel’s Crew had a weepy day, says her sister, Fionnuala. “In Manayunk we were trudging along and the sister of one of our walkers came out with a sign for us and gave us candy. When we went through Havertown, our kids were lining Darby Road, and they had Irish dancers there, and they were clapping. It really lifts you so much. On the final day, there’s a ceremony for the survivors and we all took our shoes off and raised them to honor Carmel.”

Bradley says that’s the reason she can’t do the walk without dark glasses. “I’m laughing and crying the whole way!”

What also kept her going, she says, was her husband, Louie, who is president of the Philadelphia Gaelic Athletic Association, and their children, Fiona, 17, and twins Shane and Conor, 15. “I don’t know what I would have done without their support and help,” she says. “I knew I needed to keep going because of them.”

Friends and parents at the children’s schools helped out. “We had more dinners than we could eat,” Bradley recalls, laughing. “I was just overwhelmed by the goodness of everybody. When I came from Ireland [25 years ago] I didn’t have any family and friends here at the time. These people have become our family.”

See our photos from the Carmel’s Crew tea party.

August 23, 2012 by
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A Chat with Dropkick Murphys’ Ken Casey

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Kathy McGee Burns and Ken Casey of The Claddagh Fund. Photo by Brian Mengini.

 

By Kathy McGee Burns

The Dropkick Murphys are an Irish American punk rock band formed in Quincy, Massachusetts in1996. Their front man, bassist/vocalist Ken Casey has been with them from the beginning.

Have you ever heard their music? Well, let me describe it: feisty, loud, yelling, screaming, rough, in your face and boisterous. Are you getting the message? On the other hand, Ken Casey is boyish, kind, sentimental, sincere, and generous to a fault–generous with his time, talent and money! This is quite a dichotomy.

Ken was born in Milton, MA, the town with the most people of Irish descent in America. His mom, Eileen Kelly and dad, Ken Casey, only had the one child but Ken felt adopted by every family in town. Ken Casey, Sr. died when Ken was very young but his hero, his Grandda, John Kelly took him under his wing and helped him to form the principles Ken lives by every day.

John Kelly was a Teamster who taught his grandson the plight of the Irish working class, the experiences of Irish immigration in Boston and what it is like to be the low man on the totem pole. He emphasized that you need to stand up for yourself and give back what treasures you get. John Kelly told his grandson, “Gratitude is an action.”

At first, Ken says, he was doing a million things for many charities. Then friends began suggesting that he start his own. They said, “Your fans will get involved and feel a part of it,” he told me when we talked recently.

Now, Ken Casey is doing just that. He has formed The Claddagh Fund which is a charity foundation based on the attributes linked to the Claddagh: “Friendship, Love and Loyalty.” It was started in Boston with the help of the great hockey star, Bobby Orr. The band was able to incorporate a lot of fundraising activities with their events and to date, the Dropkick Murphy’s have raised about $1 million.

I was introduced to Ken’s music when I joined the Claddagh Fund’s board of directors and I have to admit I’m still adjusting to it. It is quite different from local Irish music legend Vince Gallagher singing “Emigrant Eyes.” The Irish music that the Dropkick Murphys do is familiar—“Finnegan’s Wake,” “Black Velvet Band,” “Wild Rover”– but “reformulated and modernized for the younger ear,” Ken told me.

He told me that Pete St. John, who wrote the Irish favorite, “Fields of Athenry,” came to see the Dropkick Murphys perform the song and loved it.

Many of the songs they choose mirror the social conscience of the band. The song “Broken Hymns” reflects a young man’s perspective of the Civil War:

“Now the battle hymns are playing
Report of shots not far away
No prayer, no promise, no hand of God
Could save the souls of the blue and grey
Tell their wives that they fought bravely
As they lay them in their graves”

Then there is the song called “The Hardest Mile,” about Duffy’s Cut, the site in Malvern where in 1832, 57 Irish railroad workers were killed—some by cholera, others at the hands of area vigilantes who were afraid they were going to spread the disease.

“Now ghosts dance a jig on an unmarked grave
A slug full of lead was the price they were paid
Vigilante justice, prejudice and pride
No one in this valley will be seen again alive.”

The best, to me, though, is their song “Boys on the Docks”, which is a tribute to the memory of John Kelly:

“And the boys on the docks needed John for sure
When they came to this country he opened the door
He said “Man. I’ll tell ya, they don’t like our kind
Though it starts with a fist it might end with your mind.”

Ken Casey tells a charming story about Bruce Springsteen. He first met “the Boss” when Springstein showed up to a Dropkick Murphy’s gig in New York City, with his son. Ken was still on the bus when he got an urgent call, “Someone wants to see you. “ He rushed to his dressing room and there HE was. Well, here’s the tearjerker, on St Patrick’s Day 2011, to a sold out crowd, in Fenwick Park, they both sang “Peg of My Heart, to Ken’s Grandmother, Peg Kelly. You can see the video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t2R2cG2Ah4Y

The Claddagh Fund now has a Chapter here. Ken says that Philadelphia reminds him of Boston with its tight-knit communities and a network of friends.

They’re counting on we generous Philadelphia Irish to help make the Claddagh Fund a success here. And by success, I mean raising money for the five underfunded charities it’s supporting in the city, including:

Build Jake’s Place, whose mission is to build playgrounds for children of all abilities;

StandUp for Kids, which helps homeless and runaway kids on the streets;

Peter’s Place, an organization that helps grieving children and families;

Philadelphia Veterans Multi-Service and Education Center, which helps veterans with employment, training and related educational services and offers assistance to veterans who are having tough times;

Limen House, which provides a temporary home for recovering substance abusers.

The latest fundraiser will be the First Annual Celebrity Golf Tournament to he held on Monday, September 17, at Woodcrest Country Club, 300 Evesham Road in Cherry Hill, NJ. There are plenty of sponsorships available, ranging from $250 to $10,000 and a foursome costs $1,250. For more information, contact Claddagh Fund Philadelphia Director Kate McCloud and 267-644-8095, or email her at kathleenmccloud@claddaghfund.org.

It should be a great day for golf and celebrity watching. Here’s what I’m hoping: That Bruce Springsteen shows up with his clubs and he and Ken serenade Kate and I with “I’ll Take You Home Again, Kathleen.”

August 21, 2012 by
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Donegal Man Named to Upper Darby Police Youth Athletic Hall of Fame

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Kevin Ward, center, with Upper Darby Police Chief Michael Chitwood, right, and James A. Harrity, left, of the Pennsylvania Fraternal Order of Police.

BY SEÁN P. FEENY
Of the Donegal News
(Reprinted with permission)
A Donegal native has been inducted into the Upper Darby Police Youth Athletic Gym Hall of Fame in Philadelphia becoming the second member of his family to do so.

Kevin Ward, originally from Creeslough but living in Philadelphia for the past twenty years, received the prestigious accolade at a presentation night. Currently visiting his native Creeslough with his uncle, John Boyle from Cashel, we caught up with Kevin.

The son of Danny and the late Bridget Ward, Drumnacarry, was surrounded by friends and family as he became the second member of the Ward family to receive the award.

Kevin’s brother Brendan is also a Hall of Famer and was named Man of the Year by the Upper Darby Police Athletic League in 2011.

“There’s no tougher man than my brother Brendan, I had tougher sparring sessions with him than most of my fights, he taught me a lot.

“Brendan got into the Hall of Fame a few years ago, then last year he was named Man Of The Year as he is still very much involved with the kids.

“When they announced that I was to be inducted, it came as a big surprise as I never thought I was worthy, It was very special, especially as my uncle John Boyle, who has always been very close to us, was over from Manchester for it,” said Kevin.

Kevin joined the Upper Darby Police Youth Athletic Gym when he first moved over to the States in 1992, having grown up boxing with Dunfanaghy ABC.

“I started boxing with Dunfanaghy at the age of 14 under Eddie Harkin and Mickey Dunnion. When I was 18 I moved to London where I boxed with Highgate Boxing Gym for a few years before moving to Philadelphia,” he said.

Kevin joined his older Brendan, who had moved to Philadelphia in the early 80s, at the Upper Darby gym and started boxing on the amateur circuit.

During his career he won the Golden Gloves in 1993, the Mid Atlantic Championship, the Diamond Championship and the Tri State Championship over five years.

Although he is not a full-time coach, the Upper Darby gym is still like a second home to the Creeslough man and he enjoys visiting hand having a ‘mess around’ with the kids.

Kevin comes from a family of boxers. His oldest brother Donal was a boxer, Brendan was a professional boxer and their uncle John Boyle, a native of Cashel but residing in Manchester, was a prize fighter competing around the North England city.

August 17, 2012 by
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Meet the New International Mary from Dungloe

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Meghan Davis, the 2012 International Mary from Dungloe

If you believe in that kind of thing, it had to be destiny.

When Meghan Davis, 26, of Norristown, the reigning Philadelphia Mary from Dungloe, sat on the stage in the little town in the Rosses in Donegal a few weeks ago, her borrowed Celtic harp resting on her shoulder, she was the only contestant in the International Mary from Dungloe pageant who had been there before.

Except that the last time was 22 years ago, she was four, and the contestant she was watching was her aunt, then the Wilkes Barre Mary from Dungloe. “That’s when I saw harps for the first time and from then on I begged my parents, ‘I want to play harp, I want to play harp,’” recalls the young woman, a performer, church musician, and music teacher. “It had to come full circle.”

In 1999, her aunt came home with a wonderful experience, in 2012 Davis came home with that and a sash and a crown. She was chosen from among 10 contestants from Ireland, the US, Northern Ireland, and Scotland to be the 2012 International Mary from Dungloe. She is the second Philadelphia contestant to win in the last few years. Katie Armstrong, a neonatal intensive care nurse from Lansdale, was the 2005 international Mary.

But Davis also came home with something special in 1999—that burning desire to play the harp. “But in Wilkes Barre, where I grew up, there were no teachers whatsoever,” says Davis. “When I was nine years old, my parents looked all around and couldn’t find anybody. Then, at a summer music camp, I met a teacher who was studying at Julliard. We really made a connection.”

Her parents, Dwight and Molly Davis, finally found a teacher in Allentown which about an hour drive from Wilkes Barre. “They told me I could either take lessons once a week in Allentown or with my camp teacher in New York every other week. So, every other week, they drove me to New York.”

She fell in love with the harp in Dungloe, and it’s a love affair that’s lasted. She eventually got two bachelor of music degrees, one in harp performance, the other in vocal performance, from the prestigious Peabody Conservatory at the Johns Hopkins University and The Boyer College of Music at Temple, which is what brought her to Philadelphia. She also has a master’s in vocal performance from Temple.

She knew she wanted to play and sing in the Dungloe competition, but there was a problem. She couldn’t find a pedal harp—the six-foot, seven-pedal harp she plays—anywhere in Ireland. “I even had a harpist acquaintance from the New York Philharmonic looking or me and she couldn’t find one,” says Davis.

Since a Celtic harp was easier to locate, Davis rented one here and taught herself to play it. “I also taught myself the song I wanted to do, which was ‘Ave Maria,” the song I sang at my grandmother’s funeral.”

Davis had a close relationship with her grandmother, Mary Monaghan, whose parents came from Mayo. In fact, during the pageant, she wore a small locket that her grandmother had given her when she went away to college. “For luck, or the girl who has it all,” her grandmother told her. “It had been mine when I was a baby and I had bitten it so it had little bite marks on it,” says Davis, laughing.

An American in nearby Gweedore, Kayla Reed, lent Davis a Celtic harp for her performance in Dungloe. “My grandmother passed away in 2009 and she told me she would always be there when I perform. Before I went on I was talking to her all day, ‘Be there for me.’ I know she was,” Davis says.

The harp obsession that started in Dungloe and helped Davis win her title has been advantageous in other ways, she says. “I was so lucky that I chose the harp, as it turns out. I went to grad school with some amazing singers. A lot of them are waitressing and going into real estate and not pursuing the careers they wanted in music. The harp has allowed me to set myself apart. Performers who play the harp and sing are few and far between. It’s been truly a gift. If I hadn’t had the harp I might be in a different career.”

She also plays piano and sings, which made her a perfect fit for the Philly-based Irish group, No Irish Need Apply, whose members include several current and retired policemen. “They’ve become like part of my family,” says Meghan. “Like uncles. In fact, one of them writes original songs and he told me he’s writing a new one: ‘Meghan has four uncles.’”

She’ll be performing with them—though perhaps not that song–on September 2 at Brittingham’s Irish Pub in Lafayette Hill at its annual Irish Festival and later in the month at Irish Weekend in N. Wildwood.

She expects this year to be a whirlwind of events. She’ll be in St. Patrick’s Day Parades up and down the east coast, at special events, and “anywhere the Donegal Association wants me to be,” she says. Philadelphia’s Donegal Association sponsors the Mary from Dungloe event in the city.

And she’s also going shopping. “They gave me a 1,000 Euro prize when I won the title,” says Davis. “I think I’m going to use it to buy my own Celtic harp!”

Click here to see some photos from the 2012 pageant in Dungloe.

August 17, 2012 by
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A Long, Hot Day of Gaelic Athletics

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The Notre Dames dominated

If you didn’t get your fill of hurling and football on Sunday afternoon at Cardinal Dougherty, then, well, you must be insatiable.

The day’s games started with a fast-paced hurling match, and the rest of the afternoon was dedicated to football, both men and women. The day’s biggest upset came in the final game of a series between women’s national champs, the Mairead Farrells, and challengers the Notre Dames. The Notre Dames came out on top, 3-14 to 1-10, winning the Philadelphia Senior Champions crown.

We have photos from all but the final game of the day, the men’s Division 1 football matchup between the St. Patricks and the Kevin Barrys. (Wish we had time for all of them, but we were verging on heat stroke.)

Here are all of the final scores:

Philadelphia Hurling League

Na Toráidhe beat Allentown Hibernians (Score to Follow)
Series Tied at One Apiece

Men’s Division II Football
Young Ireland’s • 3-14
Kevin Barry’s • 0-07
Young Irelands and Saint Patrick’s are the Top Two (2) Teams thus far…

Ladies Senior Football
Notre Dames • 3-14
Mairead Farrell’s • 1-10
Series 3-0, Notre Dames crowned Philadelphia Senior Champions

Men’s Division I Football
Saint Patrick’s • 0-10
Kevin Barry’s • 1-03
Saint Patrick’s progress to the Philadelphia Final, while the Kevin Barry’s face the Young Irelands next week.

August 10, 2012 by
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2012 Irish Hall of Fame Winners Chosen

 

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Tom Keenan

She’s been president of just about every Irish organization she’s joined. He’s taken photos of nearly everyone in the Irish community in Philadelphia. Though she’s a relative newcomer to Philadelphia, she has become the darling of “the ladies who lunch” at the Irish Immigration Center in Upper Darby.

They’re the latest inductees to the Delaware Valley Irish Hall of Fame, which will honor them on November 11 at the Irish Center in Philadelphia.

 

Kathy McGee Burns

Kathy McGee Burns has been involved with the Irish community since 1986. She is a member of many organizations including the Philadelphia St. Patrick’s Day Observance Association (she is outgoing president); the Irish Memorial, Brehon Law Society, Irish Society, Claddagh Fund, Irish Anti-Defamation Federation, Inspirational Irish Women (she was a first year honoree), and the Donegal Association (where she also served as president). She the president of the Delaware Valley Irish Hall of Fame and is active in supporting St. Malachy’s School in Philadelphia. Father John McNamee, who helped turn St. Malachy’s into a “beacon of hope,” was one of the many who nominated her to the Hall of Fame. Married to Michael Burns, Kathy is the mother of nine children.

If you’ve been to any Irish event in the region, you saw Tommy Keenan, the longtime photographer for the Irish Edition, the newspaper that has covered the Irish community for decades. Bob Gessler, founder of the Hibernian Hunger Project, wrote in his nomination letter: “With little fanfare or fuss, Tom Keenan has at one time or another, made us all part of history.” He has not only chronicled Philadelphia’s Irish history but he has supported many causes from sports to charity. Tom works as an Instructor at the Antonelli Institute for Art and Photography where he prides himself in being a mentor and adopted parent for hundreds of students. Tom is married to “ the love of his life, Jane” and has a son, Dylan.

Siobhan Lyons

Thirty of the “senior citizens” who are regulars at Irish Immigration Center of Philadelphia nominated executive director Siobhan Lyons. Declan Forde, in his letter, wrote: “We have chosen Siobhan because she is a hard working person, 7 days, 24 hours a day. She works for the benefit of we Irish who may need help with such questions as health, finances and insurance.” Siobhan is also involved with the Brehon Society, the Irish American Business Chamber and Network, and the Irish Network (In-Philly). Born in Dublin, she is the daughter of a
diplomat and majored in Arabic.

For tickets to this event, please call Sean McMenamin 215-850-0518 or Maureen Saxon 610-909-0054.

August 10, 2012 by
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Remembering Collin Abrams

Father and son, at a training exercise

Father and son, at a training exercise

Collin Abrams never had any doubt about what he was going to do with his life … or whose life he would choose to emulate.

A fourth-generation firefighter, the 21-year-old Washington Crossing man was in line to start fire school in Philadelphia in September, preparatory to become a city firefighter, his life’s ambition. Active in several fire companies and rescue squads along the Bucks County-New Jersey border and frequently singled out for honors locally, statewide and nationally, he was the son of Michael and Cheryl Abrams. Michael, also a lifelong volunteer, currently serves as fire marshal in Raritan Township, N.J.

Collin Michael Abrams, the couple’s only child, died July 14th in a drowning accident at the home of a friend in Hopewell Township, N.J. He left his family and friends with treasured memories of a passionate, dutiful and committed young man who wanted nothing so much as to spend his life in the service of others.

“From the day he was born, he was raised in the fire service,” says Michael Abrams. “I don’t think a day went by when there wasn’t an interest in the fire service. He followed in my footsteps. It was our passion. Collin from day one was taught the history and tradition of the fire service, and he respected that. He got it all from early on. That’s where he wanted to be.”

Just a few months ago, Collin took the test for the Philadelphia Fire Department, and scored about as high as you can score without being a veteran, who get preference on the entrance exam, says Michael Abrams.

“He scored 100 on the test, and then because of his certifications being a Pennsylvania firefighter, certified with the National Pro Board, he was given extra points. He was also a Pennsylvania emergency medical technician, which also scored him extra credit points.”

Collin was also a swift water rescue technician.

If firefighting was in the young man’s blood, so was his Irish heritage. Michael says he and his son were members of the Hibernian Fire Company in Lambertville. Cheryl Abrams is British-born, but most of the Abrams family were Irish

Perhaps it was the Irish in him that propelled him to join the Philadelphia Police and Fire Pipes and Drums . But it’s a safe bet that Collin once again was following his father’s example.

“We went to the St. Patrick’s Day Parade in Philadelphia in March, and I saw the band,” says Michael Abrams. “Man, the way these guys came up, the fire department right behind them, it was just incredible. Well, my mother (Alice) had died last July 18, and I thought … I want to do something to honor my mother.”

Collin Abrams

Collin Abrams

Michael drove down to practice at the Philadelphia Police Academy, and he brought Collin along. Collin at that point, perhaps feeling a bit overextended, was not certain he wanted to join the pipe band, but Michael joined, hoping to become a drummer … and it wasn’t long before Collin picked up sticks. Practice and band gigs soon occupied much of their time.

“Collin and I both, our commitment levels are very high,” says Michael. “We knew right away, this was gonna be cool. It was a thing that me and Collin shared together. We shared good times on our ride down to practice.”

For Collin, band practice was also an opportunity to pick the brains of the current and retired Philadelphia firefighters who belonged to the unit, says Michael. “The guys in the band gave him so much information. They were prepping him for the career he was going into. We’d stay for hours and hours.”

It quickly became apparent to the other musicians that the father and son were deeply committed to the band … and the son in particular was making his mark.

“Anything we asked him to do, he was jumping up and getting it done,” recalls band President Sean Gallagher. “He made all of the parades. He was in the honor guard. The kid had a great impact on everybody.”

Band master and music director Mark O’Donnell was particularly touched by the young man’s enthusiasm. “He was with us a very short period of time, but from the instructor’s perspective, he really reminded me why we do this.”

When band members learned of Collin’s untimely death, they took it hard, but they resolved to honor his memory in a way that would have meant everything to him. It’s the custom in the Police and Fire Band that members who have passed through their probationary period are honored in a ceremony in which they are presented with their kilt. Typically, the probationary period lasts about a year. Band president Gallagher says that the Abrams were so active and so obviously, deeply committed, that they both were on target for a “kilting” well ahead of schedule.

Here, however, Collin was just a step or two ahead of his father.

“Collin had been playing with the band only three months, but he was learning fast. He was definitely going to be playing in time for the Irish festival in Wildwood in September.”

At his family’s request, Collin was “kilted” posthumously, buried in his band uniform. “We didn’t have to think about it,” says O’Donnell.

The band also presented the family with a Philadelphia Fire Department helmet with Collin’s name on it. They saw him off with full honors, playing at the funeral as if it had been a line-of-duty death. It was, O’Donnell acknowledged “a rough day.”

“We’re a service band,” O’Donnell explains. “We play a lot of funerals. Line-of-duty deaths (like the recent deaths of Philadelphia firefighters Robert Neary and Daniel Sweeney) are really hard.” But in Collin’s case, he added, there was the sad realization that a potentially brilliant career had ended before it ever had a chance to begin.

The Abrams, for their part, were grateful that band members saw fit to honor this young man that they had know for a few short months. Now, they face the task of moving on, drawing on their memories for solace. Michael Abrams in particular will remember a young man who was much more than a son. “We were best buddies,” he said. “Best friends. I don’t know many fathers who had the relationship that Collin and I had. We were very tight.”

July 27, 2012 by